" "B" Stands for Boring Bottoms"

I read this blog from my boy, Immanuel, who resides in DC. I don’t know about DC but this blog is right on for the all the bottoms in the ATL. Check out his blog – Confessions of a Down-Low Brother. Very good reading!

Here is his blog post!

I’m going to catch some heat for writing this blog entry. But hey, I don’t care. I have to get this off my chest.

Gay men divide themselves into myriad categories — tops, bottoms, versatile, versatile tops, versatile bottoms. Often the lines blur — you will find a guy who is mostly a top who will flip and take dick from certain guys. It all depends on the mood, the unexplainable chemistry that occurs between two men when they get down.

In my journey from the straight to gay world I’ve run across all types. And the type that I’m beginning to detest are so called “power bottoms”- or guys who are exclusively into taking dick for as long as they can. To me it seems that bottoms like this believe the world revolves around their puckered assholes.

“I want to sit on that dick,” they would text me when I visited gay hookup Web sites. “I want that big black dick.”

“My azz is tite papi, come loosen it up.”

“Come fuck me. Call 917-555-2989,” another would write.

No flirting. No foreplay. No conversation. It’s all about getting my big dick hard and into their asses at warp speed.

There is a bottom guy I have fucked who is handsome as hell — tall, muscled, and very dark skinned with a shadow beard. “Sebastian” looks like a gay man’s dream. But he is a typical selfish bottom. It’s all about his pleasure, He gives little play or passion. It’s all about getting a dick in his ass so he can experience that fine line of pain and pleasure that is anal sex.

Less than five minutes after you walk in the door Sebastian will turn his ass up in the air and assume the position. I guess he thinks his big, muscle ass is so appealing it will get any gay dick hard in seconds.The rest of the session is about fucking him. When you get tired of fucking him he will urge you to stick one finger, two finger, and eventually half your hand up his ass.
His ass’ capacity astounds me. Where does it all go?

“Next time Immanuel bring more of your friends with big dicks so y’all can take turns fucking me,” he said.

Ummm,” I think to myself. “I don’t think so. I don’t want to inflict this boredom on anybody else.”

What a lot of bottoms like Sebastian don’t realize is that good sex is not about just getting a dick hard and fucking it. It’s so much more. It’s flirting, foreplay, caressing, kissing, massage. To me, fucking someone has become optional or the icing on top of the cake of an intense session.

Another problem is population of bottoms is so large they are a cheap commodity. You can get ass just walking down the street. Oh, you didn’t know that? Just read some of my blog entries.So in order to set themselves apart bottoms really have to have some skills. My advice to “power” bottoms:
  • Keep your body in shape. With so many bottoms on the market being fit is an asset. There is nothing sadder than an older, fat bottom with a stretched ass and a size 44 waist.
  • Get off your back and close your legs for a minute. Learn how to pleasure your man in ways besides straight fucking. Try massage. Nipple play etc. Don’t insist on fucking at the top of a session, let it build up to that.
  • Invest in a good dildo and learn how to use it. Because with the shortage of good tops you are going to need a toy when the real thing is not in reach.
Is he telling the truth? What’s your thoughts on his blog?


6 thoughts on “" "B" Stands for Boring Bottoms"

  1. I agree with the blog, and that sex is all encompassing, with the conversation, foreplay, and the actual act. Don't get me wrong, I'll get down with the get down just like the rest of them, but it's more than just fucking. I also believe that with most power bottoms, its more of an over-compensation within the black community. "I know it's wrong for me to like this, and I'm not a punk, so, I'm going to be the baddest bitch this side of my community." This can also be a defense mechanism. Maybe the power bottoms are afraid to let someone close to them like that, and they hold everyone at a distance. ::shurgs:: Just a thought. 🙂

  2. I agree with this post. As a vers myself, I find it important to connect on a sexual level before penetration is ever done. Foreplay is a MUST for me; sensual touches, sexy talk, hell–a freaky text message. Something to make my heat rise, and not just my dick. I mean, I wake up in the morning with a hard on anyway, rite? So I think it's important that the rest of my body is aroused as well as my partners. I can be "there" and ready for the nitty-gritty, but if my partner isn't there yet, I'll help him get there. Sex should be a mutually beneficial arrangement, not just about an orgasm. Where this "Power Bottom" thing came from is beyond me. I can't imagine just cold hard fucking. I don't even like porn with just straight up fucking, get me there first, you know? If I just wanted a wet hole, I have a right hand and a flashlight for that. You have sex to communicate with one another, so SAY something. Don't just lay there. (well, enough of my soap box…)

  3. I agree 110%. I got this one kat I met online who is probly one of tha finest things you'd ever lay eyes on but at 25 years old he wants to come over and get straight on tha dick. I was playin in his ass one night with my fingers and within 3 minutes he said "when you gon put that dick in there?" and THEN to top it off he only knows one position and don't even touch himself. Now he can't understand why I aint interested. He is SO bad in bed that I am actually considering telling him just to help him out in the future.

  4. The above/below comment may have been true for the authors but I hold porn vids and Tops yes, Tops responsible for the onslaught of so called pwr bttms. Everyone has to "do it" harder longer faster and if not you're discounted discarded and just plain dissed. No wonder these poor misguided dudes risk having their walls knocked out by all sorts of impatient insensitive ingnorant dudes just so they can feel validated & valued in a culture which values sex roles unequally as if one is better (Truth be told we both get fucked…its mutual)if it is to be good sex. I feel for the orig.blog poster, but don't blame the victim.Have a conversation with him and better sex will be had by all.

  5. Well, from my experience, it's the tops who don't want to do anything but stick it and quit it. I agree with the last statement about both parties having a discussion on the issue. If you don't like power bottoms being so aggressive, then don't complain about the submissive, soft ones that take their time and demand patience. LOL

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